Sh@y's Proverbs

-To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else, is the GREATEST accomplishment... Ralph Waldo Emmerson

-If at first you don't succeed, try not to act surprised...

-Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out!

-You can't fix stupid! Period.

-Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together!

-Attitude is a small thing, but makes a BIG difference!

-Our eyes are placed in front because it is more important to look ahead than to look back.

-Don't play games with a girl who can play BETTER:)

-The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think

-The BEST thing about chasing your dreams is... You can have as many as you want, and they can change anytime. Life is ALWAYS going to be full of surprises! In order to WIN the race, you've got to actually be IN the race!

-Our inside jokes, too many to name. When we're apart, it's never the same. When we're together it's nothing but fun. Replacing my girls, just can't be done.

-If she is amazing, she wont be easy. If she is easy, she wont be amazing. If she is worth it, you wont give up. If you give up, you are not worth it!! Period.


Wednesday, June 23, 2010

....Mormon Standard Norms.....

So on June 12th two more friends of mine got married. Before I start my post I want everyone to know how excited I am for them to have found their perfect spouse's or fiance's! They have all found awesome "other halves" and I couldn't be more happy for each and every one of them!!
Many would agree that marriage is a major step in ones life. Would I be off my rocker saying this?!? Hands?!? No?... Well then I'll continue onward... Once you are married you are married to that one person (unless you are a member of the polygamist cult) FOREVER and in LDS cases for ETERNITY! Which for you math whizzes I will say that is a VERY, VERY, very long time. As a young single latter day saint woman I have found that all this recent activity of nuptials is becoming slightly disheartening. According to most Mormon norms most girls get married between the ages of 18-22, with the peak age of marriage being 19 or 20. I have been graduated from high school for 2 years now and at this moment I have 25 girls in my grade out of 100 that are either already married or currently engaged. That's 1/4th of the girls in my grade!! 8 of those girls are pregnant or already have a baby. Never in my wildest imagination did I think I would married let alone have a kid when I went to my brother's graduation. I feel like an old maid according to Mormon norms. Just a little side note for any followers of this blog, my absolutely biggest fears in this whole world is... to die an old-maid!!! I hear it all the time that there is no rush, but it's hard to not worry about it when every time you get on facebook there are new engagement pictures popping up and emails asking for peoples addresses!! Now the grade just younger than me is starting up with marriages too!! I am sure my grade has more marriages than the grade above us! Let's look beyond my class, just friends in general. Friends I just met in college are all getting married/engaged or in some cases (practically engaged)!! Some days I feel like I missed the email(memo) that said, "PICK YOUR FIANCE HERE" So I could become engaged or married along with a gazillion other people I know!
But do you know what I realized, that I am free!!! Right now if I felt like it I could sign up with ILP and go teach English in a foreign country!! I don't have to worry about leaving my boyfriend or fiance or husband for 4 months! I can pick up and do anything I please!! RIGHT NOW I CAN BE SELFISH!!! I can go to work, then after work go party it up with my friends until the wee hours of the morning and not worry about calling someone to let them know I am going to be home late, or pay for a babysitter!! I do what I want, when I want, and I have no one to worry about besides myself! Granted I do worry about others that is just my caring nature but in the end staying up late is only going to effect me, no one else, no husband, no baby!!! Another positive that I found was I can date whoever! I can have random non-commitment make-outs(ncmo) with any Henry, Jim, Mike, Leon, Brad, or Jordan I want!! :)
Bottom line, I'm living life before I settle down and get married! I didn't miss that email(memo) I saw it, and then I freakin DELETED it!!!! I am single and I love it. I am not committed to another person. I am going to fly by the seat of my pants everyday! If this makes me an "old maid" by imaginary Mormon standards then so be it!!

Wednesday, June 9, 2010


Dear Self,

I've come to the realization that life sucks!! Yes, it constantly likes to slap me in the face with wonderful things that make my life more stressful. This could also be God's way of humbling my naturally self-confident personality. My poor roommates have dealt with recent blow-ups. You see everyone, I, Shay Harvey have what the personality color-code defines as a "yellow": the life of the party, the one who is always happy, the social bug, optimistic, and positive person. Those of you who do know me, realize this is spot on. But I am also a "white" I hold things back and put on a happy face to cover up what pain I am feeling. As of recently I have had serious issues with what I want. LIFE... this little four-lettered word though simply spelled is the most diverse, broad, impacting, stressful, lovable, responsible, alternating, comical, and hated word in the English language. At this particular point in my life, this word (life) can be trumped with another word, LAUGH!
I look back on my life and wish I could go back to the time where my biggest worry was something little like who I was going to hang out with. Now everything is a constant worry, rent, my car, gas, work, school, getting enough hours at work, groceries, and most recently guys! I've always had self confidence issues when it came to the opposite sex. Why you ask? Well my whole life I have been the tallest, and the biggest girl. I've lived feeling like I was a man, and other peoples blunt comments don't help me at all. This plays a major impact on what kind of guy I am looking for as a boyfriend or potential spouse. I am looking for someone taller (of course), broader, athletic, smart, easy-going, and most importantly FUNNY! Since I've been at college I have gone on various dates with very different guys. I've learned that looks aren't everything, and that a somewhat cute guy can become hot with an awesome personality. I also learned that though you may like him, that doesn't mean he knows that. Life isn't like a movie, it's real and guys don't just happen. If I want something to happen, I NEED TO DO IT! So I did, I have asked guys on dates. I have stepped out of my comfort zone to do something I don't normally do. I have found that guys are just as scared as girls at asking people out. Though I have stepped out of my comfort zone, and took the initiative NOTHING has worked out for me. I have learned that I am awful at reading "signs" and even better, I have learned I am awful at giving "signs". I recently have been doing some serious limbo with this one guy, and in the end I have just decided that he doesn't like me and I would rather keep him as a friend then tell him how I feel. This realization led to what my roommates have witnessed as a blow-up! So.. Self, as of now our goal is to "do me". Don't worry about anyone else and focus on what is important in SHAY'S life. Get your priorities straight and stop worrying about guys and responsibilities cause life only gets harder. For now I am just going to LAUGH at everything I've been through and remind myself that LIFE IS GOOD!!